What are the signs that an ex boyfriend or girlfriend still has feelings for you?
Are they hidden? Easy to spot? And if you do see these signs, what should you do about them? How can you use them to win your ex back?
Knowing how your ex feels post-breakup is not always easy. Chances are you lost contact; some or all of it. This alone makes it difficult to read someone.
On top of that, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend is not going to outright tell you how they feel anymore. Their true emotions will be guarded. Secret. Kept only to themselves.
Chase them too hard, and your ex will cut you out of their life altogether. Keep pushing when your advances are not welcomed, and they're never going to tell you a thing.
Sure, eventually you might get your ex to talk. But by then it might be too late. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may have moved on by then, or he or she may have become disinterested in you altogether.
Even worse, your ex could be dating someone else.
For these reasons, you need to know the full list of signs your ex might want you back. But let's take a few moments to go over the short list, and talk about the more obvious ones first:
Your Ex is Still Text-Messaging You After the Breakup
This happens when your boyfriend or girlfriend is not absolutely sure of their decision just yet. Rather than risk losing you for good, they keep some lines of communication open … even if that communication is extremely limited.
The bad news here is that your ex has all the control. THEY decide when to call you. THEY decide when to answer your texts. And the more you try to communicate? The more distant they become. Essentially, they're giving you just enough contact to keep stringing you along.
This also takes the guise of "let's still be friends". If your ex offered you that dangling carrot, then you're really in trouble.
But the good news? The lines of communication ARE still open. Your ex is not totally ignoring you, which could mean a lot of really bad things. If that was the case, your ex could be interested in another person. Or he or she could already be seeing someone new.
The fact that they're still talking to you is good, but it's also bad. Talk to them too much, and you never give your ex the chance to miss you. This is a 100% essential part of the reconciliation process (and no, you can not skip it).
Your Ex Makes it Overly Obvious They're Not Dating Anyone Else
Has your ex gone out of her way to be visible to you? Has he intentionally shown himself to be single, and wants you to know it?
If so, it's a good sign they might want you back. Many ex boyfriends and girlfriends who break things off plan to do so only temporarily. In that case, your ex will make absolutely sure you KNOW they're not dating anybody else … so that YOU do not date anyone yourself. In short, they're hedging their bets. Being utterly transparent, for the sake of their own interests.
You Get Drunk Dialed by Your Ex, or They Call You When Their Guard is Down
A breakup is like a castle wall – you have to get through it before you can win the prize of reconciliation. So while you're trying to win back that person you still love so much? It's always prudent to look for weaknesses in their defenses.
In this case, the chink in your ex's armor will be calling or texting you late at night, when they're lonely and more prone to thinking about you. Loneliness leads to nostalgia. Nostalgia leads to fond memories of being back in your arms again.
Drinking also reduces your ex's inhibitions by a factor of 10 or more. What they will not say while sober, but still might be thinking? That sort of stuff will come out when your ex is drunk, alone, and yes, thinking about you again.
Drunk dialing or calling to talk while tired and weak are both good signs that there's still interest. Your ex may not be ready for a full-blown romance again, but getting back together is right around the corner if you know how to play the cards right when this type of contact comes.
Other Signs Your Ex Still Loves You
When it comes to knowing how someone really feels about you, the best things to look at require contact. What's their voice like when they talk to you? Are they eager or disappointed? And if you see your ex (because you work or go to school with them), what kind of body language do you read? Is your ex stiff and cold toward you now, totally indifferent, or are they showing signs of warming up or actually flirting with you again?
And what if you HAVE no contact with your ex? How are you supposed to know how they still feel about you then? In that case, you'll need ways to make your ex contact YOU. Some of these are simple, and can be done without your ex really suspecting your true motives of getting them back.